Love forgives the unforgivable – the conclusion.

by Craig on May 20, 2011

Forgiving the unforgivable begins with choosing to believe in the power of Our Lord. And it doesn’t need to be a perfect faith. It can be racked and riddled with doubt…

“I do believe, help my unbelief!” (MK 9:24)

How was I able to forgive the unforgivable?

It concluded in the church service I’ve been writing about – and that concludes in my words today.

If you’ve missed that, and want to start there – it’s here.

The idea of forgiving the one who was impossible to forgive came weeks before the night in the church. It was Robert Schuler: positive thinking, Crystal Cathedral founding, Hour of Power creating, television preacher, who opened the gate.

One morning he told the story of having a person in his life he couldn’t forgive. He acknowledged his inability to forgive and asked Our Lord to forgive for him.

Now that was a new concept!

So that morning the thought began to simmer.

When my mom made sauce – she’d let it simmer all day, on the back burner. That’s where this thought went – a little bit of low heat, cooking but not really being paid attention to, a little stirring every now and again, but mostly just…


Sometimes the great things,
the impossible things,
have to simmer within
before becoming a part of us.

Then came the night of the church service – and the preacher moved the pot. He actually asked if there were anyone present who had someone in their life they couldn’t forgive.

I’d been listening so far, but I’d also been occupied, wrestling with Our Lord. Now he had my attention.

I sat up straight on the seat and focused on his next words.

My words will be longer than his, and I’m writing them differently than he said them. Those words were twenty plus years ago – and for people there that night.

These words are specifically tailored for you.

And they are my words.

And I’ll run out of room here – and since I want you to know this today, I’ve spilled it over into Deep into Scripture. Opening up the other blog in a separate window will be helpful. Just Click here to do that. And then come back to this window.

Take the unforgiveness.
Hold it in your hands.

This thing you can’t do,
this person you can’t forgive,
you have to let it go.
but right now,
hold it to your chest.
Hold it there a while and your hands began to tire. No?

Now just talk with God,
tell him,
“I can’t do this.
I can’t forgive.
I know I have to.
I know you want me to.”

The exact words don’t matter – just let Him know.

And while you’re saying this, keep holding that unforgiveness – and the offender – tightly, inside your hands, and hands to your chest – one hand over the other, imprisoning both the offender and the bitterness.

Your arms might start to tire a little. It’s a good lesson in what holding onto unforgiveness can do.

Keep holding it tightly and close to your chest.

I’ve found that if you want to release the bitterness that can’t be released without the help of God, it helps to hold on as tightly to it physically, as you are emotionally.

Keep holding tightly.

If you’re actually doing this right now – keep holding on to it tightly – and scooch over to Deep into Scripture if you want to continue.

If you didn’t click up above, click here any you’ll open up a new window.

I knew having two blogs might come in handy someday…

{ 3 comments… read them below or add one }

Liz Hoyt Eberle May 21, 2011 at 10:36 pm

Craig, this series on forgiving has helped me limp through a particularly hard time. Deep guidance to help me open my hands. For me, it’s forgiving myself–the child my Father gave His life for and then it’s the future… you know all those things that may never come to be. I’m thankful He blesses me with cyber friends who walk through “stuff” with each other.


Craig May 22, 2011 at 6:33 am

“all those things that may never come to be” – yes I know. One of the better thing was about the fact -and it is fact – that we now live forever – is that if we’re 30 it’s not too late – if we’re 50 it’s not too late –if we’re 70 or 90 it’s not too late. This whole life that we consider fairly long – it really is but a wisp of smoke – that sounds a little sad – except for the fact that this life is the shortest part of our life that will reach into eternity – so it’s never too late to start – it’s never too late to try – I heart that. And I, too, am thankful to for this community online – thankful for you – truly am. God bless you and keep you.


A. June 1, 2011 at 11:17 pm

holding tightly…to the unforgiveness and the offender…I missed the offender part and that is so true and so good! I will be trying this tonight, for sure. More than once.


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