Love identifies the “spies” of the negative voices

by Craig on June 28, 2011

And so we have a war underway. It’s a Love War, no bullets, but love.

No casualties – except stupid negative voices that hold us back.

And to really “get” this Love War you need to know what this is…

If you’ve never seen this before – please click here – and my sticky note craziness will all be explained.

Oh, and the Love War includes the occasional quote from Sun Tzu, an ancient Chinese general who has really good stuff to say about fighting wars…


In the practical art of war, the best thing of all is to take the enemy’s country whole and intact; to shatter and destroy it is not so good.

I’ve been wondering lately- as I’ve been amassing an army of posty notes on the wall – just what we’re going to do with these stupid negative voices as we conquer them? The bigger the voice cloud gets, the more I realize how much destruction has been going on inside myself.

The wall won’t stay this way for long – changes are coming – good changes.

Anyway, what’s going to happen with all these posties, these negative inner critical voices?

Love doesn’t randomly kill and destroy – that’s the job of non-love.

One bit of Love War strategery is to win over the enemy…

by making the deadly enemy…

an encouraging friend.

And that’s a hint of what lies ahead.

This war against all of those posties which are growing in number on the left side of the battle line, is one of transformation – not necessarily destruction.

As Sun Tzu said…

To subdue the enemy without fighting is the epitome of skill.

But that’s down the road a little…

What’s up next is to identify and isolate more of the enemy.
We need as many posties on the wall as possible.
The more that are on the wall (or board)…
the fewer that are repeated in our head.

So to that end…

a different kind of inner critical voice to identify and isolate…

one that operates with a velvet glove…

It doesn’t growl like this one…

It sounds like helpful advice.

It doesn’t enter by way of spears and swords.
It enters by way of invitation.

We want help. This negative voice offers backhanded, critical, hurtful attacks in the guise of benevolent guidance. So we invite the enemy in.

It’s a little like this…

Sneaky and complicated this enemy,
and so…
refined and sophisticated our strategery.

If, in the metaphor of Love War, the harsh inner critical voices are the foot soldiers,

all hack and slashy…

the velvet gloved one’s are spies.

So I need to keep accumulating the growly foot soldiers, and posting them, and now begin to identify a bunch of these velvet gloved spies. To this end a little bit of Sun Tzu …

It is essential to seek out enemy agents who have come to conduct espionage…

So true General Sun Tzu…

Next time that’s what we do…

and I really didn’t mean to rhyme.

{ 12 comments… read them below or add one }

Dawn June 28, 2011 at 9:03 am

Oh, Craig, this has got Nelson Mandela written all over it!

Interesting differentiation between the lies and the spies…excellent development. It’s blessing my soul.

Heart this,


Craig June 29, 2011 at 3:41 pm

thank you Dawn – I heart that you heart this! And I didn’t expect this development of the “spies” – a whole different kind of negative voice – that just doesn’t sound so negative – but kills. God bless you Dawn.


Lynda June 28, 2011 at 10:21 am

Of course you may leave a comment on Women of Noble Character. It seems that we have created a dilemma by calling it that. I enjoy your thoughts and words so much that you are more than welcome to participate. If we ignore the input of men then we are not able to grow beyond our meager vision of what makes a noble woman. Thank you for visiting Craig. I have been away for some time as life has thrown me a curve ball. I hope to be back to a regular blogging schedule soon. God bless you!


Craig June 28, 2011 at 11:57 am

I noticed a little of that curve ball as I’ve visited your blog. I’ll be there ready to read, when you’re writing again :-) and thank you for permission Lynda. God bless and keep you.


A. June 28, 2011 at 10:29 am

Love your enemies….I am smiling at this-the “Eat, you’ll feel better” tactic really made me smile! I am still learning here in your military academy!



Craig June 28, 2011 at 11:59 am

see! That’s how these particular negative voices work – and why they work so well. They make us smile – they sound like they’re friendly – but really it’s just another way to attack – and we fall for it every time. This is a “negative voice” that I never would’ve labeled as one – but it IS. I heart having you in the Army G.I. A :-) God bless.


Dawn June 28, 2011 at 3:29 pm

GI A. and Craig,

Lysa Terkeurst’s book Born to Crave is about that very negative voice “Eat, you’ll feel better.” Her premise is: you won’t feel better until you satisfy your deepest desire with God, not food.

I was glad to see this as one of the stickies because it can be a really negative voice for many. As you may remember, Craig, I was a First Place 4 Health leader for 5 years and this was what we were all about.

Bless you,

PS Craig, do you have a picture of a flame in your archives that you think is a particularly good one? I need it for an anniversary card for my husband. If I had a website address where I could go to download and print an image would be great. You always know where to get the most perfect graphics. No rush, anniversary is Friday…


Craig June 28, 2011 at 3:43 pm

Dawn – this whole thing of pleasant “voices” being negative voices – is a shocker for me. That was just one of them. I didn’t know that her book was based on that. The book came out before I started blogging – and I didn’t know that kind of stuff – or those kind of names.

As for the picture – e-mail me exactly what you want to flame to say – and I’ll poke around and find just the right frame for you – you have my e-mail address. It’ll be a pleasure :-) God bless.


Debbie June 29, 2011 at 12:13 am

Spies for the lies. Sneaky. Now you have me on the look out! God bless you as you lead us on in this war. I am really getting a lot out of it. Thank you!


Craig June 29, 2011 at 3:43 pm

Debbie, these are the negative voices that I have heard – maybe even more often than the scary bossy ones. The negative, yet soft and comfy ones – that’s sneaky! I heart that you’re getting something out of the war – it makes me smile. Thank you – and God bless.


Michelle June 29, 2011 at 7:39 am

So often they sound good. It’s only as we really listen to what they are saying that we hear the twist in the lie…..I think I need new ears sometimes.

PS Sinus infection clearing up – thanks for praying.


Craig June 29, 2011 at 3:44 pm

I need the new ears too Michelle – maybe you don’t need the new ears – maybe it’s just your sinuses :-) I’m glad you’re healing. God bless


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