Love gets all encourage-y

by Craig on June 30, 2011

“What is one area you’d like a refill of encouragement?”

I start with that because today I’m linking up with Bonnie Gray, and that’s the topic du jour…

and if this day were one of a couple of days from last week…

well…

this would be me ⇒⇒

But today…

My sippy cup of positive emotion is all brimm-y

it’s downright…

smurf-y…

Happy smurf-y…

This day I don’t feel like I need a refill of encouragement…

I feel kinda…

encourage-y…

I feel all encourage-y…

For any who haven’t been reading Deep into Love recently, I’ve been up to my knees in a Love War…

A Love War against the stupid negative voices…

If this Love War is news to you – and you’re curious – just click on the love tank below and all will be explained.

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I heart that tank. Especially the little hearts on the tank treads. (((Smile)))

Anyway…

The inner critical voices are mostly just repeated negative comments that bring back all the emotions of when they were first said to us. And they just hound us into submission – into believing them…

Stupid negative voices!

If you’ve been with me in this war, you may have found what I have found…

the inner critical voices continue to sneak around and aren’t at all happy about any Happy- Smurf-y-ness!

And they’re mean and nasty…
and maybe they’re attacking now more than ever.

And I’ve been researching how to get rid of these stupid negative voices and psychologists all say the same thing…

But guess what?

and I really mean this…

my computer ate all the research…

the dog didn’t eat my homework…

but the computer ate all my pretty psychological research!

Gah!!

So you’ll have to take my word for this.

When we begin to fight the inner critical voices, they’ll fight back even harder – with a vengeance even.

It’s the fact that we started the fight that makes them scratch and claw so hard for existence. Their increased attacks are actually a good sign.

Nice!

I know!

But they’re threatened and desperate – so they try to make us feel threatened and desperate.

There were a couple of days this last week that they encircled me…

Let’s see…there was this voice…

and this one…

and this one…

Seriously now!

and this one…

Enough already! Geeeeeeeesh!

But today, I’m not feeling in need of getting my “encouragement” cup filled…

I feel all encourage-y…

I feel fill-y…

And I want you to know the truth…

I know most of you who read me – because I’ve read you – that’s how we found each other.

And I know this…

You’re special, and unique, and I’m honored that you read me.

You are a daughter of the living God…

and you are deserving of love…

and deserving of attention…

and you’re not perfect, but you don’t have to be…

you’re a diamond…

rare and unexpected and tough and faceted and sparkling in your own way…

you’re the reason I chose, although being a guy, to write in this community made up almost entirely of Christian “mommy bloggers” (the full reason is here – if you read it you’ll heart it – LOTS – I promise!)

And the last word? Actually two…

Thank you…

No…

Actually five – I’m a terrible editor…

Hey! Is that a negative voice?

That’s going on the wall (he said, squinting his eyes in determination)…

Sorry I was all focus-y and then, “oooooooohh shiny!”…

It happens sometimes…

Five words…

“thank you”…

and

“God bless you.”

Bye.

Wait…

Umm…

{ 12 comments… read them below or add one }

Mari June 30, 2011 at 9:50 am

Thank-you for the encouragement today, for I’m in need of a refill! The negative voices in the form of fears started attacking last night and this morning I’m tired :( but having read about ur own war I’m so glad that your cup is full today, praise God! Have a blessed Thursday :)

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Craig June 30, 2011 at 11:11 am

… So… I just finished praying for you to get some sort of encouragement today.

And Fears! I hate fears! Pretty much the root of all of the inner critical voices.

And I got a couple of hours of actual sleep last night – so that was good – it’s easier to be all ƪ(◠‿◠)╯ when you get a few hours of (⌣˛⌣)

I really hope that you have as good a day as possible today Mari, God bless you!

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A. June 30, 2011 at 10:51 am

And thank you, Craig. When you say, “God bless you,” you are part of God’s blessing to us. Some days when I have needed uplifting and encouraging, and I have come here to your spiritual ‘ooooooo shiny’ place, I have been so blessed. So thank you, too, because your place here is not just shiny but it is also solid and real and full of insight….and I guess that is actually all part of the shiny here.

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Craig June 30, 2011 at 11:14 am

A. – Did you notice the one posty about not being able to hear the good things that nice people say about you – darn that’s a hard voice to overcome. Thank you anyway – I know you mean it – I just have to get better at hearing it – TOUGH VOICE! Thank you, as always for your kind words – and I love the “ooooooh shiny” line – I’ve used it before – and will use it again (◠‿◠). God bless you A.

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Katie June 30, 2011 at 6:59 pm

I so understand the fight you describe and how some weeks are great and others are not. Thank you for the encouragement! Thank you for fighting this fight and sharing it with the rest of us. Thank you for being real in your struggles and sharing them.

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Craig July 1, 2011 at 4:38 pm

Katie, I heart that you understand the “fight” with the negative voices. You probably also know how hard it is to get “reveal-y” with stuff – afraid that once people know what’s inside they’ll walk away. Thank you for not walking away. God bless you.

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Michelle July 1, 2011 at 6:12 am

“you’re a diamond…
rare and unexpected and tough and faceted and sparkling in your own way…”

I had on my wall at my first job “Diamond – a piece of coal under pressure.” I still say I want to be a diamond. (I also say I work well under pressure – but prefer not to!)

Thank you so much for the encouragement you bring every day. I really look forward to reading and seeing what God is going to show me through your picture words.

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Craig July 1, 2011 at 4:38 pm

the pictures – they’re the relaxing part of writing the posts – the ideas – that gets a little stress-y, the writing, once the ideas are there is actually a joy – and the pictures, they take almost as long as the writing. But I heart the pictures! This one of the reasons I blog in this community – we heart pictures – the community I almost blogged in – you’re lucky to see a little tiny square of the picture at the top of the post – if you’re lucky – and then words, words, words, words. And between you and me, I probably look more forward to you reading my words then you do to actually reading them :-) thank you for reading me. Thank you for having read me since nearly the beginning. God bless you Michelle.

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Layla Payton July 2, 2011 at 12:18 am

And that, Craig, is why your blog is the first one(s) I go to, at the end of my day. I just get all smiley & encouraged. :)

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Craig July 2, 2011 at 8:23 am

Layla, that makes me smile, and encourages me more than you can know. Thank you. thank you. And God Bless you!!

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Debbie July 2, 2011 at 3:25 am

I am so encouraged that you were all encourage-y! and fill-y! Thanking Him for that for you! Praying it for me too! God bless you too! And thank you!

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Craig July 2, 2011 at 8:45 am

fill-y is a condition that comes and goes – and it relies heavily on the quality of the “sleep” I have been getting. “Mood” is one of those things that lack of sleep just decimates. This post came after a night of “better” sleep. I’m glad it was timed well. God bless you Debbie

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