Love explains how it got “here” from “there”

by Craig on July 15, 2011

We hear those inner critical voices – and respond to them.


But they’re just thoughts…
only shadows…
they can’t do anything about what they say…
the only power they have is the power we give them.


back to the Love War Wall recap.

The first part of the battle was to pay really close attention to every negative voice that entered my head and pin them to the wall.

Then I decided to box them in. I corralled them like horses.

They didn’t like that and they pushed back – hard.

Soon an army of posties was on the wall.

And the voices, which had became posties, then became wild horses needing to be broken – in order to be ridden. And I needed a separate corral – the green one – away from the other horses – and that orange path leading to it.

Oh, and I noticed at this point that the corrals kinda looked like a horse.

So, I gave the horse ears…

and a tail…

and legs.

I was going to remove them but Debbie told me in the comments to leave them on because they lended an air of fun to all the heavy. And since you guys are the boss of me – I did as told.

The next step was to separate the wildest of the wild.

A top ten was easy to do.

I just grabbed the nastiest ones from the corral.

Then I took two of them. One was worse than the other – it went on top.

I now had two in order.

I grabbed another and matched it against the top one. It wasn’t as bad, so it went below – but it was worse than the other one so it went above it – in the middle.

Now I had three in order.

I grabbed a fourth one and started at the top. It wasn’t as bad as that one, or the next, or the next – it went at the bottom.

Now there were four horses in a row.

I just kept repeating this process for the other six horses and voila – my top ten…

All separated from the herd in a separate corral…

and the top one in the training corral – all by it’s lonesome.

Some of you have told me you’re battling hard against these voices – and you aren’t winning. That may be because we’ve only been gathering intel. We haven’t really started fighting back yet. So maybe it’s time to start breaking the horses one at a time.

I’ll have more techniques next week.
But this weekend I’ll be putting one horse at a time in the training corral.
I’ll be asking the two questions from yesterday’s post.
I’ll be writing the answers on the posties.
I’ll be giving the answers a voice.

And interestingly, while writing down what the voices say steals some of their power – writing down the answers to these questions yields understanding, and some self-compassion – and we. gain. power.

Next time – more ways to break the horses.

And one more little thing…

this weekend will be about praying…

for you…

all weekend.

I promise.

My timer will be set for the top of each hour – and when it goes off – I’ll pray.

I’ll be praying for strength, and angels, and determination, and insight and the upper hand to be gained. If you’re in the fight with me you will be prayed for every. single, hour. I’m. awake. I’ll even pray for angels to be by your side when I’m not praying – or if I skip an hour.

If you get a moment,

can you pray for others in the battle.

If everyone is praying for others, and not themselves

… well …

that’s Love…

and there’s a certain kind of Love magic that happens…

when that happens.

{ 18 comments… read them below or add one }

A. July 15, 2011 at 10:53 am

“the voices only have the power we give them”. That is very revealing and freeing!

“And interestingly, while writing down what the voices say steals some of their power – writing down the answers to these questions yields understanding, and some self-compassion – and we. gain. power.” This adds to the power and freedom. Wow!

I love the compassion part, too, and your suggestion to pray for others we see here in your place or other places. thank you for all these things, Craig, and yes to the prayer party invitation.


Craig July 15, 2011 at 5:11 pm

A. “The power we give them” – yet look how they hold the reins on us – instead of us holding the reins on them. It doesn’t make any sense when you look at it that way – and maybe that’s the way we should look at it. And it’s 5 PM on Friday – and I’m smiling – because I’ve already gotten to pray lots for people today – and specific people – it’s always a treasure praying for you (◠‿◠) – and thank you for joining the “prayer party”. Who knew there was so much joy and praying for other people? A year ago – not me. God bless


Cora July 15, 2011 at 10:55 am

My clock says 11:53, and you can’t believe how much it means to me to know you pray for us, Craig. I went back in the past posts, and I gathered the names of those following along in this. I’m commiting to pray on the half hour for each name I found there. Thank you!!!


Craig July 15, 2011 at 5:16 pm

Cora, I heart praying for you – I’m finding that I heart praying for people a lot! Thank you for letting me pray. I know the fight is a tough one. I just got done with my top of the hour prayer – and it was full of awesome! Thank you for committing to pray so much – remember though – it’s the faithful yet imperfect quest for perfection – and grace for the quest. I won’t remember to do it every hour this week – timer or no. I know I haven’t in the past when I’ve promised. I used to feel really guilty for that – but I hit almost all of them – God only requires perfection once – when we present them the bouquet of daisies at the end – he only requires that they’ll be perfect – and they all will be (◠‿◠). God bless you Cora – and thank you.


Mary M July 15, 2011 at 2:12 pm

Thank you again for all of this–even just writing down and acknowledging the negatives has helped already! Unfortunately for various reasons I can’t follow some of the practical aspects of your method as closely as I would like :( but I’m trying to stick to the spirit of it anyway :)
Oh yes, and thank you for the prayers and the prayer invitation…count me in! Tomorrow morning I will offer my Communion with the Lord for your intentions and for everyone in the Love War, and try to be mindful of everyone throughout the day as well. (And even if I forget, I know our sweet Jesus will remember!)
God bless, and Godspeed to all!


Craig July 15, 2011 at 5:26 pm

Mary, I have so hearted being able to add your specific name in my prayers – and it’s only the start – there’s today, and Saturday, and Sunday. And I get that not everybody is able to have a love war wall like me – the only people living here are me and Laska the love Kitty – so a wall of posty notes with very revealing stuff on them is possible. But I’m thinking maybe smaller posties, inside a gameboard, and tucked away somewhere safe while you’re working on this – that might be really useful. Just an idea. I know at least a few people are doing it that way. But the ability to move around the posties – that kind of even brings more power – and the fact that there so – temporary – that helps to. And thank you for joining the “prayer party” – thank you for offering your Communion for these intentions – I know what a holy thing that is. God bless you Mary! And Godspeed! (i heart the word Godspeed btw (◠‿◠))


Linda July 15, 2011 at 9:07 pm

I am loving this idea. my hubby has a piece of paper on his side of the wall with his and I wanted something nice 4 mine! I love when you said they loose power when we write them and more when we find promises from God that expose them to truth. thanks for commenting on my blog too!


Craig July 16, 2011 at 9:33 am

I see that your husband doesn’t read as many blogs written by women as I do – I’ve been affected by daisies – and roses – and the heart that beats strong in mamas. But I really heart that he’s doing it along with you – that’s a marriage! And I know the voices lose power when we write them down – because I experienced it – once I got them out of my head and onto the paper and onto the wall – a lot of them just shut up! That’s power! And I heart your blog! God bless you Linda – and your hubs.


marlece July 15, 2011 at 10:02 pm

I love how you ‘corraled’ all of these, now it’s time to claim that Satan has no authority over you in Jesus name.

I love this idea, I am going to begin writing more strongholds or issues down as well so that I may be more directed in my prayer life. Great thinking again Mr. Craig….

And yes, it is love when we pray for one another instead of always thinking about the one and only SELF. My prayers are with you, and enjoy the sun, take a snooze, and smile.

Love, Marlece


Craig July 16, 2011 at 9:38 am

Amen, Marlece – Satan has absolutely no authority of us – except the authority we give him – or the authority God gives him (i.e. Job). Sometimes I forget the spiritual aspect of this – and go straight to the practical psychology stuff – which does have its place – but I remember that at the center of all of my corrals is the dot – and the dot stands for Our Lord – And prayer is always our first line of defense. Thank you for the reminder! and about praying for each other? I think that’s what love is – and I think heaven is love – when we get there – every need will be met at every moment – and always by someone else – and always without asking – because everyone will be about meeting everyone else’s needs in love. That’s an awesome thought. No? oh, and now I’m happy to be adding the name Marlece to my prayer is at the top of every hour this weekend. Thank you for that. God bless you.


Debbie July 16, 2011 at 2:32 am

Thank you for praying and for corralling and for keeping the horse. :) I heart them loosing power and us gaining some.
God bless you and your readers, and the prayers being lifted up this weekend!


Craig July 16, 2011 at 9:29 am

I heart the horse now to Debbie – thank you for that! And I heart that now you are mentioned in my prayers this weekend to – every hour. Thank you for that too. God bless you Debbie.


laura July 16, 2011 at 11:00 am

This is such a fascinating process, Craig. I can almost feel the tension. If I ever get back to counseling in private practice–working on an inpatient unit right now–this will be a great tool to use for cognitive restructuring. You are a good guy and thank you for the prayers. I’ll be praying for this battle as well. :)


Craig July 16, 2011 at 11:16 am

Thank you Laura, and if you have any tips in this battle – please share with me (◠‿◠) I so respect your expertise. And I guess the ℒℴѵℯ War on the negative voices does involve a lot of “cognitive restructuring” . A horse of a different color (◠‿◠). and I heart being able to add you, by name, in my prayers, every hour this weekend, the next of which is only 45 min. away. God bless you Laura!


Stefanie Brown July 16, 2011 at 11:52 am

What an ingenious idea!
Daily Satan uses one or more of these comments/statements as he attempts to derail me. I welcome this technique and will bank it for future use.
Thank you so much!
Have a blessed weekend…


Craig July 16, 2011 at 12:05 pm

thank you Stephanie, it started so simply – and then corrals, and horses, and breaking horses, and cognitive restructuring, and prayer – it’s an all out ℒℴѵℯ war on the stupid negative voices that hold us back. I think some come from Satan. I think some come from just ourselves. Either way, prayer, and a concerted effort will at the very least minimize them – and maybe retrain Every. Single. One. thank you for swinging by, I hearted your comment, and I hope that you have a blessed weekend too!


A. July 25, 2011 at 9:38 am

I am smiling thinking about the day when we get to see other good voices join the dot. :)


Craig July 25, 2011 at 1:33 pm

A. I think that’s where we’re headed, each and every negative voice corralled will have a new positive voice – so that when we hear one – we will automatically hear the other. That’s the plan. Bless you A.


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