Love is gentled – as it gentles

by Craig on August 17, 2011


And I wonder what to do with the fear…
as I face the stallion full of fire…
ears pressed flat…
legs kicking, tail swishing…
eyes full of contempt and fear…
and wide, and white…
and nostrils flaring hot gusts of air.

This horse is hellacious and huge. It’s in the training pen. But it wants out. And I find myself wanting to move on, and not finish what I started. But there is no stopping the Love War against the negative voices that hold me back…

that hold us back…

until we win.

If you are new to the Love War against the negative voices…
it began here
and the horse “breaking” is explained here….
And over to the right and down a bit on the sidebar, in the “Lots of Love” section…
is the whole history of the war.

And at this point I remember it’s all…


So I stepped forward … with love.

It’s not like cowboy movies where the wild horse is bullied into the pen…
and the cowboy mounts it…
and the riding continues until either the rider is bucked…
or the horse loses its spirit.

That’s not love. It is war. But it’s not a Love War.

All that does is injure the horse, and maybe the rider. And I remember that when we look at the wild stallion, we think of riding it – but they look at us and think they’re on the dinner menu.

Before any riding begins, groundwork is done.

First the horse is settled.
Then you lay the blanket on its back.
Then you lean on the blanket…
and the horse learns that your extra weight isn’t a threat.

Then comes the draping of your body across the horses back…
head dangling off one side and feet off the other….
if the horse bucks, you slide off and start over.


If the horse accepts you, then whisper, and pet, and linger before gently slipping off and doing it again.

Step by step you add saddle, and straps, and a bridal, and bit, and finally a rider. But everything in love, with gentle persistence, and trust, and nothing gets broken – and the horse becomes a friend with spirit intact.

I think of how my spirit was broken as a child, and how being broken is dreadful state.

I don’t want a broken horse but one that’s strong yet cooperative.

And now I think of patience, and kindness, and compassion, and calm, and truth, and determination, and faith. And how love casts out fear (1JN 4:18). I am gentled, as I gentle the horse. And love wins.

And by the way, I got to this point because I preceded all of this with prayer. I almost forgot, but the prayer soothed my spirit, and reminded me that love is part of the Love War against the negative voices.

I thought I was going to ask questions of the negative voice today.

But it was still far too full of fury.

Now it’s not.

Now it’s ready for questions…


please come back.

{ 7 comments… read them below or add one }

Ruthiey August 17, 2011 at 10:55 am

You’re so right. It has to be love that changes us. Recently, I heard a quote that’s been echoing in my soul – ‘Only the Gospel can give us the power and right motivation to change – only the Gospel!’


Craig August 17, 2011 at 11:01 am

Ruthiey, I think a lot of things change us, some for good – some for bad – but obviously the best changes come from the gospel – and at the heart of the gospel – is love. Thank you for sharing the quote Ruthiey – I hearted it. And I heart seeing you in my comment section – makes me smile. God bless and keep you.


Debbie August 17, 2011 at 11:51 am

This is just so good. That we don’t try to just out power the negative voice or bully them back. But with love, patience, kindness . . .He makes a way. :) And you made my day! Thank you and God bless you as you tame all that needs tamed, in His name!


Craig August 17, 2011 at 3:22 pm

Debbie – the negative voices are big and scary enough as it is – and this IS after all a “love war” – and this morning this horse was really feisty – and mean – and it was the prayer that turned it around – I’m learning not to forget to pray before dealing with these voices – that seems so, so, so important. Thank you Debbie, thank you, and as always, God bless you and keep you.


Michelle August 18, 2011 at 5:40 am

“And by the way, I got to this point because I preceded all of this with prayer.”

Good to know! 😀


Craig August 18, 2011 at 5:07 pm

me too Michelle – I usually end up learning – but sometimes I learned slow ツ God bless and keep you!


A. August 22, 2011 at 10:56 pm

I heart that the love way is the best way to gentle a horse! All the other ways fall short even when they sound ‘good’. Even setting boundaries and using assertiveness fail if not done in love…His love.


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