Love means death is not goodbye…

by Craig on September 29, 2011

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this canvas and all the rest below were made by Sara - this one seemed so perfect for today


Yesterday was Sara’s funeral.

She planned this service to the last detail, right up to the final song, “O Happy Day”. You could tell it was shaped by someone who understood she wasn’t dying, but about to live in a brilliantly different way.

From the time I found out, until I learned she had left this earth…
I prayed all day, every day, for courage, faith, and peace…
for Sara…
and peace, faith and courage…
Sara had in boatloads…
and the design of this service was proof.

The minute I heard Sara’s recordings of these songs I knew they’d be played at her funeral. To hear her voice singing was hauntingly beautiful – perfect. The first song, “My Soul Desire”…

“Lord I do not seek to claim the glory. I only wish to be under your control”

“…an empty vessel longing to be filled by You”

That was her life.

Why do I so often forget that it is to be mine?

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For Sara’s final earthly outfit she chose a shirt that said, “It’s not about me.”

The service was Catholic.
I’m not Catholic – just an off the rack Christian.
But the Catholic Mass is a beautiful thing…
when there is heart behind the words.

handled with love…
is humble devotion.

In every Mass there is a reading from the Old Testament…
one from the New Testament non-gospels…
and one from the Gospels.

The Old Testament reading, Isaiah 55, began to reset my mind and heart…
and tears of understanding and adoration were released…
verses 9 and 12 broke me down, and built me up.

For my thoughts are not your thoughts,
nor are your ways my ways…
Yes, in joy you shall go forth,
in peace you shall be brought home…

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There is an eternal song…

of which we are all part.

Sara sang hers with so much love and grace.

We all have our part to sing…

and there are no solos in the score…

only harmony…

the solos are sad improvisation at best.

There is a tie between eternity and time…

time being created just for us, by God.

We stand at that point of connection…

love is the bond…

Jesus is the only way.

There is more on Sara’s “see you later” service, would you consider moving with me over to Deep into Scripture for part 2.


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Cora September 29, 2011 at 9:42 am

I was so struck today by your statement that we all have are parts to sing and that there are no solos in the score. Isn’t it amazing how “solo” we all seem to feel???? I get so self-absorbed, and thinking I’m so important on this little speck of dust called earth. When I worry about things, it’s so out of proportion, so full of self, as if I were the only creation God had ever made. I think of Sara, who just kept pouring out into the lives of others, and her song just keeps on singing. Selfless songs. They are the only kind that DO keep on singing. Maybe I’m thinking this way after listening to the suggested message over at Ann’s yesterday. It’s long, but the most moving thing I’ve heard in a long, long time. I come away from Sara’s funeral, from this message, and from you, Craig, and I want to learn the song of Grace!!!!!


Craig September 29, 2011 at 8:46 pm

Sara’s words, “it’s not about me” – I need them tattooed somewhere. Everything – EVERYTHING is about the one who created everything – not the creations – and I forget – and I forget – and I forget. And placing solo.

And Ann – you do know that SHE is the writer that changed everything for me – and saved me from becoming a blah blag theology blogger – to somebody who can write with a smidge of heart. I’m not sure I ever told you that. Anyway, God bless you my friend.


Martha Orlando September 29, 2011 at 4:52 pm

“There is an eternal song . . . of which we are all part” – What an exquisite way to describe our lives, here and in heaven! And, I love what you said about all of us singing in harmony; I imagine God taking the melody every time.
Blessings, my friend.


Craig September 29, 2011 at 8:42 pm

ツ sometimes the occasional fancy phrase gets typed by these fingers. I’m not sure where that came from – it just popped into my head. Maybe we should give God some credit ツ and I thought about “Melody” as I wrote that line – I knew somebody would catch it – YOU were the one. ツ and do you know how long it’s been since I put three smiley faces in one comment? God bless you Martha.


Martha Orlando September 29, 2011 at 9:34 pm

Three? Really? God bless you, my dear!


Craig September 30, 2011 at 11:51 am

ツツツ………………………… ツ


Christine October 2, 2011 at 1:42 pm

Your words about the service, and Sara’s life, are so touching and beautiful, Craig. When you feel inspired, you make us feel it too. Thank you for sharing what you experienced. I am rejoicing with the newness that Sara has found and mourning with those who lost her in this life. xoxo


Craig October 2, 2011 at 2:30 pm

Christine, the service was important for a lot of people – to help people to move on after Sara was gone. I think that’s why she planned it the way she did – or at least one of the reasons. I find myself thinking now more of Sara, like I do others who aren’t here anymore, and how good where they are is. I needed that service to start thinking this way. God bless you Christine – and you know what makes me smile – I’ll see you at blissdom – right?


Craig October 2, 2011 at 2:49 pm

PS oh, that’s right, you’re going to that OTHER conference, darn – I liked it better – that few minutes that I thought you were going to be at blissdom – I heart smiles. God bless.


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