Love isn’t fiction…it’s intentional life

by Craig on February 17, 2012


After writing the story of Valentine
and living in that time and place for weeks…
I get why being a novelist might be inviting.

When you write fiction, you create a world and you determine fates.

When writing the story of Valentine I had some very basic historical facts…

•    269 AD
•    the three main characters, Claudius, Asteria, and Valentine
•    The decree against marriage, and the later one declaring no “One True God”
•    Valentine defying the decrees
•    His imprisonment and martyrdom

Everything else I got to create.

Coming down from writing fiction – back into a world of real…
where the story tends to control you rather than the other way around…

and ordinary things like doing laundry, and self-doubts, and injuries by people you trust, and faith that never seems big enough…

that’s kind of a let-down.


I’m experiencing that now.
I didn’t expect this.

Love doesn’t live in the world of fiction does it?
Love lives in the faith of daily life.

It’s like waking from one of those amazing dreams…
the kind that you don’t want to wake from…
but you have to open your eyes…

and the dream fades.

It’s like coming home from vacation…
or from an inspiring conference…
and unpacking.

Yeah. That.

But that’s life isn’t it – mountaintops and valleys and plateaus…and love like sprinkles on a cookie rather than the whole thing being dipped and covered in chocolate.

Heaven, whatever it is, whatever it will be, will be mountaintop to mountaintop, and chocolate through and through, and that good dream that won’t end, and that trip that never gets any better – because it can’t, because it’s already the best, and you don’t even want it to get better for the same reason.

Heaven is where there is never nastiness, never fear, never tears, never struggles without the appropriate strength, no need for faith because there will be no doubt, everything built on patience, kindness…



Heaven is later.

And I guess we are responsible…
for bringing as much of heaven…
as much of heaven’s love…
into the here and now as possible.

Love isn’t fiction…
it’s intentional life.

Today I have need to hold on to that particular aspect of love really tightly.

Today I’ll be committed to bringing as much heaven into this day as possible.

Will you consider joining me?

{ 17 comments… read them below or add one }

Lisa Maria February 17, 2012 at 11:15 am

Love this post Craig… I agree with you! The valleys and plateaus… and love is like a little glimpse of Heaven right here. As I said in my last post… life isn’t going to be easier, trials still come and there’s still heartache and heartbreak but with love you can survive.. even thrive. And He IS Love.. with Him, in Him and through Him we can get love and give love like never before. This I believe with all my heart. Thanks for this great reminder… a lovely piece of inspiration!


Craig February 19, 2012 at 2:48 am

thank you Lisa Maria – I’m fighting off pneumonia so I have to keep this short – but I heart what you said about love being like a glimpse of heaven – now. I think THAT was a lovely piece of inspiration! God bless and keep you my friend.


Katie February 17, 2012 at 6:42 pm

It is intentional life…..

Yes, it is intentional, not whatever someone uses to distract them from life. LOVE is intentional life. Love it Craig!


Craig February 19, 2012 at 3:40 am

Katie, first of all, sorry I’m so late again to respond – still battling this pneumonia – grrrrrrrrr pneumonia! And love is intentional – so like SHOULD be intentional – now to practice what I post. (◔‿◔) God bless you Katie


Liz Hoyt Eberle February 17, 2012 at 9:49 pm

There you go again, Craig, setting an example for us to LOVE.
Follow you down the road of bringing a little love/heaven into the lives of —-
our FAMILY? To people I live with 24/7? To people I know inside out??? Hummm. Well, that’s asking a lot. I mean… they KNOW me. Well… may I begin with baby steps in bringing heaven into their reality??? Like, hanging freshly laundered shirts in his closet? Like taking disbled daughter to her new class, at 8:30 IN THE MORNING, on a rainy morning, with a smile? Like being glad/thankful/grateful that I can still do those things on the eve of my 75th birthday. *sigh* Thank you, Craig, for helping me navigate daily waters and reaching for His perfect Love to give me courage to step out in faith to the next rock hiding under the water. You are a blessing and I’m grateful that you help me heart the hard days.


Craig February 19, 2012 at 3:46 am

Liz, first of all I’m sorry I’m so late responding to your comment – I’ve got just a wee bit of pneumonia – I don’t heart pneumonia! (°_o) and funny Liz (◔‿◔) “they know me!” – That is THE hard kind of love! But, I think, maybe the best kind. My mom always used to say “charity begins in the home”. I look back now and know that what she meant by “charity” – was love – she was a King James kind of girl (◔‿◔) – and Liz – I’m grateful for YOU! God bless you my friend – and happy belated birthday – here – have this

☆.•*¨*•.•*¨`*•.¸.•*¨`*•. .•*¨`*•.☆ Happy Birthday! ☆.•*¨*•.•*¨`*•.¸.•*¨`*•. .•*¨`*•.☆


Nacole@sixinthesticks February 20, 2012 at 11:14 pm

oh Liz,

love the honesty of this. you are inspiring. still serving with God’s grace at 75. if you can do that, then i can do it too.


Livia February 18, 2012 at 10:17 pm

Craig, I love this: “Love is intentional life.” That is deeply inspiring. Each of those words and the whole that they convey together is a priceless and precious truth. I think I would love to find a way to put that statement into a heart locket to wear…to carry with me to remind me. Thank you for this stunning truth and the way you have told us about it! I may have to go sprinkle some rose petals on a river somewhere to commemorate your Valentine story and this beautiful insight, also.


Craig February 19, 2012 at 3:50 am

“Love is intentional life.”- I just stumbled on that sentence, Livia., The whole thing coming from the emotional letdown from the fiction I wrote – to the real life we live. I think I’ll be going to a writing conference in a few months – the same one I met “grandma” Joyce at – the one who published my little love devo – who knows – maybe I’ll pitch Valentine to an editor as an historical novel– you never know! God bless you my friend!


Nacole@sixinthesticks February 20, 2012 at 11:12 pm

yes, yes, pitch it! do!!

love is intentional, not fiction…i will need this tomorrow as i serve my family…remember the Mary/Martha thing? still struggling with that a lot lately…serving not my natural bent and it frustrates me and brings me so much guilt and hurt. i PRAY God would bestow His grace upon me and make me a servant!!!


Craig February 21, 2012 at 10:21 am

I just finished praying for that guilt and hurt – and balance – because as I respond to your comment “tomorrow” is today – you have been prayed for my friend (ˆ◡ˆ)

and I WILL pitch the idea – I’ll be brave and put together a pitch for this, and a lot of other things. Thank you for the encouragement. God bless you Nacole.


Michelle February 21, 2012 at 2:25 am

Firstly, hope you are getting well. (I really dis-heart pneumonia – and the antibiotics that go with).

Secondly, “Love isn’t fiction…it’s intentional life.” This reminds me of a song by Don Francisco, and the line in it which says “Love is not a feeling, it’s an act of your will.”

Thirdly, I know you pray so I’m asking for prayer. Have been very weary lately, and I know it’s caused by stress, and we’ve been hanging out for a part to come to fix our car (out of action since the middle of December), and it came, but………it didn’t fix the car. So we now have to replace the other option and it sucks. We are both tired (stressed) and hubby feels he’s let me down with the decision WE made with advice from mechanics (2 different ones). So, just a little prayer for peace would be awesome. Thanks. :)


Nacole February 21, 2012 at 9:26 am

if you dont mind, i’d like to quietly ask if it would be alright if i pray as well? i know that it seems sometimes in life everything is against you and you can never get your head above water–i’m well acquainted with financial grief–four children and one income. so i’m praying for you right now for God to bless your finances and your car, to give you both peace and relieve some stress for you for a while at least. life always has stress, but sometimes we need God to just blow a fresh wind on us. praying for this for you.

blessings dear sister,



Michelle February 21, 2012 at 3:34 pm

Thank you.


Craig February 21, 2012 at 10:27 am

Michelle, of course you have my prayer, I just finished it, for peace, and your husband to feel your forgiveness and understanding, and for you to be able to forgive and understand fully – I get it my friend. I understand.

And little by little I will get better from this – I’ve had it before – and I’m still here –but it takes EVERYTHING out of you – and there are no antibiotics – it’s a virus – no help from little round pills this time. The good news is that I’ve had it for a while now without knowing it – and it may be on the healing end finally. but even if it was healed today, it takes time after that to get back on your feet from this – I know THAT too – I’ve been THERE before. God bless you Michelle! and thank you for letting me play for you – I heart that!


Michelle February 21, 2012 at 3:35 pm

Thank you.

“and thank you for letting me play for you ” I know its a typo, but it made me smile. I could see you with Laska playing away……. 😀


Craig February 21, 2012 at 3:38 pm

I’m sick so forgive the typo (◕‿◕) and I really mean it thank YOU for asking me to pray – it was LIKE play – maybe the typo was a Freudian slip (◕‿◕)

ps – its almost walk time for me and the love kitty


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