Love helps the reflections |pt4| the chameleon

by Craig on September 16, 2012

A thousand different strands of subterfuge…

she navigates and governs her territory with lies…
altering color and hue, truth and story, to match the need.

This is part 4 of love helping the reflections, which all began here.

The chameleon has learned that the lie is the way to get by.

In some ways, her lies have become her truth.
She leans on them…takes shelter in them…
manipulates lies so she can manipulate people.

Just as there’s a “Ghost of Christmas Past”…her reflection is a ghost of my past.

By the time I came to know our Lord floods of “historical” water had already gone under my bridge. I was a manipulator and a cheat. I mastered and practiced the art of deception.

So I know the chameleon.
I’ve been the chameleon.

Being a chameleon is not always bad.

The Apostle Paul was chameleon.

To the Jews I became like a Jew…
to those under the law [of Moses]
I became like one under the law…
to those outside the law
I became like one outside the law…
to the weak I became weak…
I have become all things to all,
to save at least some. (1Cor 9:19)

And since I see so much of my reflection in her…
I simply can’t not forgive her lies and half-truths.

And with every step of helping this reflection, bobbing on the surface, there is message to me…


in this year I’ve named “see” I need better eyes to read what’s in the bottle.

She’s never met someone who has caught her in her lies, yet still understands and forgives. Usually she sticks around only so long as the lies provide cover, and once the cover is blown she tries to escape like a droplet of water spritzed on a hot griddle.

I’ve pierced her veil of lies occasionally.

It’s been uncomfortable.
Nobody likes to be lied to
nobody likes to be caught in a lie.

I’m willing to stay until the truth becomes as much a friend as the lie…
well aware that she may spin a set of lies, break my heart, and move on.

To keep all the good parts of the chameleon…
her agility, courage, and savvy (a long list)…
can be a very good thing…as old becomes new.

This one is maybe the most special of the five.

This one has a chance to fly so high…
but she’s distrustful…and skittish.

Because I was a con artist growing up, my mom told me not only once, “It takes a con artist to know a con artist”. Maybe it takes a former con artist to help a current one.

Oh, for this one to escape the shadows…


and reach for the light that makes shadow possible.

This one…I feel really good about this one.

There is more about helping the five reflections…and I’ll continue to tell the story without disclosing the details that would betray confidence.

But next time, I’d like to take you back to this time, last year
and the saddest, and most significant experience of my blogging history.

Please come back.

{ 8 comments… read them below or add one }

Katie September 17, 2012 at 12:19 am

Keep reflecting God’s love and truth back at her is the best way to love her. Go for it Craig! Will be praying for you and her.


Craig September 17, 2012 at 6:16 pm

this is the riskiest one Katie. This is the one, because of her past, who can turn on a dime and fail intentionally just to spite. This one is the one who could run away in the opposite direction because it’s too hard to change. This is the one that tugs at the heartstrings the most, and would rip the strings apart the easiest. My mom always said I was the child who caused her the most joy – and the most heartache. That’s this one. Anyway, thank you Katie, and God bless and keep you!


Lisa Maria September 17, 2012 at 6:43 am

Beautiful pictures Craig! May God bless your efforts to help these people. I DO see bits of myself in your descriptions and yes…who better to understand than one who has been there too. Praying for courage, wisdom and guidance for you!


Craig September 17, 2012 at 6:19 pm

thank you Lisa Maria, as I was looking for the pictures I wanted them to be pretty – and I wanted them to match – and each of these did. So thank you for noticing! And funny – I think so many of us would see pieces of ourselves in these descriptions – if we just really understood how much of ourselves are inside other people – we’d want to help them more – we want to understand them more – that’s maybe the biggest thing I’ve learned from this so far. I hope that my helping helps them – I know it’s helping me – and all we can do is try. Right? Anyway, thank you my friend, and God bless and keep you.


A. September 17, 2012 at 12:09 pm

I heart this: “And since I see so much of my reflection in her…
I simply can’t not forgive her lies and half-truths.” This is such a good thing for me to keep in mind-about whatever characteristics God is challenging me with in myself (as I see them in others).

I also heart that being a chameleon isn’t always bad, because it is one of my ‘gifts’ and it does enable me, when used right, to identify with others. Like all gifts, it can be used wrongly, as well.

Praying for you as you share about this time last year, Craig.


Craig September 17, 2012 at 6:22 pm

Yep – being a chameleon is NOT always bad. And you’ll recognize the posts from last year because you read them – but I don’t want to forget the lessons that I learned – I don’t want Sara’s death to be forgotten – people always forget – there was too much about Sarah to learn form – too much to be forgotten. So I want to remember. God bless you – you chameleon ツ


nancy September 19, 2012 at 2:33 am

thank you, Craig, for this. God bless you. . .


Craig September 19, 2012 at 3:04 pm

Nancy, thank YOU. I’m really loving this helping – I’ll continue helping this month – but most of my posts ahead are going to be about Sara – and the most significant experience of my blogging life so far. Then I’ll get back and bring everybody up to date on the chameleon and the sea otter and the eaglet and the badger and the porcupine (◠‿◠) God bless you too Nancy!!


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