Love is being a “God-bearer”

by Craig on October 26, 2012

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And as I watched Sara’s funeral service…
with all the Catholic “Mass” trappings…
I thought, hot, angry, “Where is Sara in this?!”

Then I remembered what she said…

“It’s not about me.”

I am humbled.

This is part four of Sara’s funeral service, part one is heretwo is here, three here.

And as I halt my inner grumbling about “religion” I am reminded that we are creations.
We are just creations of the One most mighty and most loving person…
The Almighty God and Father of us all…
and it is, and should be, ALL about him.

Why do I forget?

And I remember this, from Ignatius of Antioch, who sat at the feet of John the Apostle:

That we, who live in Christ, with selfless love for each other, are…

“…stones in the temple of the Father, prepared for the building of God the Father,
and drawn up on high by the bulwark of Jesus Christ, which is the Cross,
making use of the Holy Spirit as a rope…
You, therefore, as well as your fellow-travelers,
are God-bearers, temple-bearers, Christ-bearers, bearers of holiness,
adorned in all respects with the commandments of Jesus the Christ.”

I am just a stone of the temple.

Why do I forget?

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And then came Holy Communion. For a true Catholic this is really a communion with God…

The first and principal effect of the Holy Eucharist is union with Christ by love, which union as such does not consist in the sacramental reception of the Host, but in the spiritual and mystical union with Jesus by the theological virtue of love. (source)

As I’m immersed in these thoughts I only barely notice that they are playing the recording of Amazing Grace by Sara…but when I do…tears in torrents.

Oh how she designed this service to honor God above her…
and to redirect our thoughts from her to Him.
I have to honor her request.

It’s God’s request.

The priest said, “It’s time to ease our sadness and increase our hope.”

It is time.

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Then people file out of the church…to the grave.

I remain and watch the Mass candle being put out.

The smoke rises…
and slowly…
ever so slowly…

“…a puff of smoke that appears briefly and then disappears.” (James 4:14)

It’s not about us.

And sunrise this morning?

Not a cloud in the sky – just a morning star to greet the dawn…

the dark night sky above surrenders to increasingly lighter hues of blue…

to lavender above the horizon…

and a brilliant orange where land meets sky…

the branches sway in gentle rhythm…

it will be a gloriously bright and crisp Autumn day.

No tears…

sadness waning like the dark of night…

Choose. Joy.

and this…

from Sara…

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treats from Sara’s memorial service – shared by Tam Hodge


Sara once tweeted…

I realized last week that I have converted many a person to frozen Oreos.

Life. Changing. People.

ツ Choose Joy


And here, in one place, are all of  the posts on life, the end of life, and Sara.

In which it’s the small things ♥✞ღ Love remembers when eternity touches time ♥✞ღ In which sorrow submerges joy ♥✞ღ Love prays peace, courage, faith, and knowing ♥✞ღ In which are “eternity touching time” thank you’s to God ♥✞ღ Love is eternity touching time ♥✞ღ In which there is hard love ♥✞ღ Love believes beyond the dark doorway ♥✞ღ In which everyone should have at least one ♥✞ღ Love is the faith of a child ♥✞ღ In which there is keeping watch ♥✞ღ Love is sometimes paradox ♥✞ღ In which is rain, and tears in season ♥✞ღ Love is greater than the universe, as are we ♥✞ღ In which is steady, intent, trudging toward the Light ♥✞ღ Love reaches for the higher branches ♥✞ღ In which is tapestry ♥✞ღ Love is believing, living, blinking out, then still living ♥✞ღ In which the fire should NOT die out ♥✞ღ In which death is NOT Goodbye | Sara’s Funeral ♥✞ღ Love uncovers joy amid the rubble of grief ♥✞ღ In which is what’s important to God

{ 5 comments… read them below or add one }

Joyce L Gibson October 26, 2012 at 10:39 pm

Craig, your grandmother stands by you with prayer and deepest caring.


Craig November 1, 2012 at 4:57 pm

These days, since those seven days with no sleep, have all been jumbled up into one for me. I’m sorry I’m only now replying to your comment from a month ago. But since I have begun blogging I’ve never considered a post complete until I got to talk about it. So even though this is a very late response, I appreciate you so much that I need to respond. Thank you for still reading me while I’ve been going through this lost time. I thought I’d be out of the rabbit hole, but the rabbit hole was larger than I thought it would be. I got your letter by the way – it meant the world – you have an e-mail coming soon. thank you for your prayers – I think I may need them now more than ever. And thank you for always caring. God bless you, grandma Joyce!


A. October 27, 2012 at 12:53 pm

Craig, I am still praying for you, as well.



Craig November 1, 2012 at 4:58 pm

thank you A – prayers are important – and I just finished one for you to – I know you have your crosses to bear as well – we all do – we need to always be praying for each other – thank you for your prayers. God bless you my friend!


Bill October 29, 2012 at 11:38 am

Craig – praying for you and waiting for a call or email from you.


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